What should I look for? connection to nextcloud only fails from https outside the lan

It could be that your ngnix try to terminate the TLS connection, but if you setup your nextcloud Apache2 as e.g. described here (or similar):

Then you will set Certificate pinning and after you visit your NC once your browser will not accept anymore what ngnix on Router does.

Try to use e.g. curl under linux machine to see what happens and what is the difference when you call NC via Domain and via internal IP:

curl -v -k https://yourDomain

and

curl -v -k https://yourInternalIP
  • -v is to show more output
  • -k to ignore Certificate, this will help in case you ngnix tries to terminate TLS connection.
Example with google:
# curl -v -k https://google.com
* Rebuilt URL to: https://google.com/
  % Total    % Received % Xferd  Average Speed   Time    Time     Time  Current
                                 Dload  Upload   Total   Spent    Left  Speed

  0     0    0     0    0     0      0      0 --:--:-- --:--:-- --:--:--     0*   Trying 216.58.208.46...
* TCP_NODELAY set
* Connected to google.com (216.58.208.46) port 443 (#0)
* ALPN, offering h2
* ALPN, offering http/1.1
* successfully set certificate verify locations:
*   CAfile: /etc/ssl/certs/ca-certificates.crt
  CApath: /etc/ssl/certs
} [5 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS handshake, Client hello (1):
} [512 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS handshake, Server hello (2):
{ [122 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS Unknown, Certificate Status (22):
{ [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS handshake, Unknown (8):
{ [15 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS handshake, Certificate (11):
{ [3495 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS handshake, CERT verify (15):
{ [79 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS handshake, Finished (20):
{ [52 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS change cipher, Client hello (1):
} [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS Unknown, Certificate Status (22):
} [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS handshake, Finished (20):
} [52 bytes data]
* SSL connection using TLSv1.3 / TLS_AES_256_GCM_SHA384
* ALPN, server accepted to use h2
* Server certificate:
*  subject: C=US; ST=California; L=Mountain View; O=Google LLC; CN=*.google.com
*  start date: Oct  3 17:09:45 2019 GMT
*  expire date: Dec 26 17:09:45 2019 GMT
*  issuer: C=US; O=Google Trust Services; CN=GTS CA 1O1
*  SSL certificate verify ok.
* Using HTTP2, server supports multi-use
* Connection state changed (HTTP/2 confirmed)
* Copying HTTP/2 data in stream buffer to connection buffer after upgrade: len=0
} [5 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
} [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
} [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
} [1 bytes data]
* Using Stream ID: 1 (easy handle 0x14897d0)
} [5 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
} [1 bytes data]
> GET / HTTP/2
> Host: google.com
> User-Agent: curl/7.58.0
> Accept: */*
> 
{ [5 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS Unknown, Certificate Status (22):
{ [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS handshake, Newsession Ticket (4):
{ [256 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS handshake, Newsession Ticket (4):
{ [256 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
{ [1 bytes data]
* Connection state changed (MAX_CONCURRENT_STREAMS updated)!
} [5 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (OUT), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
} [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
{ [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
{ [1 bytes data]
< HTTP/2 301 
< location: https://www.google.com/
< content-type: text/html; charset=UTF-8
< date: Thu, 24 Oct 2019 08:47:27 GMT
< expires: Sat, 23 Nov 2019 08:47:27 GMT
< cache-control: public, max-age=2592000
< server: gws
< content-length: 220
< x-xss-protection: 0
< x-frame-options: SAMEORIGIN
< alt-svc: quic=":443"; ma=2592000; v="46,43",h3-Q048=":443"; ma=2592000,h3-Q046=":443"; ma=2592000,h3-Q043=":443"; ma=2592000
< 
{ [5 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
{ [1 bytes data]
* TLSv1.3 (IN), TLS Unknown, Unknown (23):
{ [1 bytes data]

100   220  100   220    0     0   1189      0 --:--:-- --:--:-- --:--:--  1202
* Connection #0 to host google.com left intact
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